９６－１ How to
・Promote self-affirmation.
・Do not educate gifts.
・Give opportunities to explore.
・Do not force unpleasant things.
・Do not care about educational background.
【Part 1】Promote self-affirmation.
○Self-affirmation： Actively evaluating • accepting yourself.
・Self-affirmation can help individuals cope with threat or stress.
○Self-affirmation diagnosis check
→https://cocooru.com/checks/26 (Japanese)
○Promote self-affirmation
＜Child care＞
• Praise • Approve.
• Do not scold them emotionally • Do not get angry.
→ Do not give them negative thoughts.
• Decide by themselves • To achieve on their own.
→ Respond as an adult and support independence.
• Listen to their stories.
→ Enjoy conversation with them. Answer slowly to what they asked.
＜Self-care＞
• Accept yourself even when you are negative. Be gentle to yourself.
• Put distance away from unpleasant or impossible things. Stop it.
(Excessive expectation, sense of responsibility, pride, perfectionism, the eyes of others)
• Reduce negative words and increase positive words.
Make a sense of accomplishment. (Travel, be kind to others, find the meaning of your own life, etc.)
• Learn counseling.
【Part 2】 Do not educate gifts.
・・・The graduates of academic direct-instruction-based kindergartens were less advanced in reading and mathematics and less well adjusted socially and emotionally than those from the graduates of play-based kindergartens. - in the 1970s, the German government
・・・By age 23, 39% of those in the Direct Instruction group had felony arrest records compared to an average of 13.5% in the other two groups.
・・・Those in the Direct Instruction group had more instances of friction with other people, were more likely to have shown evidence of emotional impairment, were less likely to be married and living with their spouse, and were far more likely to have committed a crime.
Peter Gray Ph.D.”Early Academic Training Produces Long-Term Harm”－Psychology Today 20150505
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/freedom-learn/201505/early-academic-training-produces-long-term-harm
※However, creativity will not grow up if you are too concerned about cooperation.
【Part 3】 Give opportunities to explore.
・Draw a picture.
• Make a craft.
• Create a robot.
• Make a secret base.
• Make a vehicle.
• Create a game.
• Create a song.
※Do not tell until children ask.
※Don't jump in with common sense, values, solutions and advice. Let your children find out solutions and what they really like.
☆The meaning in which the intelligence exists is to create the meaning.
☆Be who you are. Explore yourself more and more to become your own ultimately, and you express it, the expression becomes word of God.
○It’s best to do one thing really, really well. －Google
○Keep looking. Don’t settle.－Steve Jobs（1955 - 2011）
○The only thing that kept me going was that I love what I did. －Steve Jobs
○It is always your own heart-spirit that decides your happiness. －Nai Fu Yari James
○Most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.－Steve Jobs
○Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. －Steve Jobs
☆If you have not lived your life, Who will become yourself？
☆There is no need to lament that without talent, it must be afraid without enthusiasm.
○It is better to create than to learn! Creating is the essence of life.－Julius Caesar(B.C.100- B.C.44）
○How increase the creativity: ① Simplicity, ② Concept, ③ appropriate constraints, etc. －Hiroshi Matsui
○The best way to predict the future is to invent it. -Alan Kaye (1940 -)
○Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.－Martin Luther（1483-1546）
【Part 4】Do not force unpleasant things.
・Do not force children to continue doing something disgusting. See what children really like and what they are good at.
※Continuing to do unpleasant things makes you depressed.
☆Be gently, gently, only gently, gently.
○Running away is a shame, but useful. – Hungarian proverb (meaning) ：Chose your battles.
☆Don't blame yourself. But even you are small. If you won't stop to blame, you'll be flour.
☆Even slowly unless stop, it proceeds fine！
○Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.－The Whole Earth Catalog(the mid-1970s)
☆Life begins always.
○50% correct is sufficiently.
【Part 5】Do not care about educational background.
・University dropouts：Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Vitalik Buterin , Takafumi Horie
９６－２ Health etc
○ Tomato and canned mackerel（EPA, DHA）
○It is better for children to swim.
○To prevent myopia that causes blindness, take outdoor light for over 2 hours a day.
“Outdoor light has role in reducing short-sightedness in kids” Science News 20160406
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/04/160406124740.htm
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